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yourself

Tools to learn how you get stuck,
why it happens so consistently
and what you can do about it.

The Enneagram

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Why the Enneagram? Simple. This work has had the most singularly profound influence on how I understand myself and my impact in the world. I first met this collection of ancient spiritual wisdom in my early twenties. I was studying Music, with little idea of how to manage my life or my feelings. I knew what I was good at, because – well, that stuff was easy. There were also things I found excruciating – difficult things that surely everyone would avoid.

But it turns out my youthful self was not entirely correct. Strangely, not everyone had a natural affinity for networking or leadership. Nor for the endless optimisation of a coffee recipe. In fact, some people didn’t even seem that interested in fighting for the truth.

Instead, I met people who seemed enthusiastic about all sorts of things I couldn’t fathom. They took joy in planning; got switched on by spontaneity. Some even waxed lyrical about the beauty of singularly coloured canvases (yeah, I still see you Yves Klein).

Almost twenty years ago, and this stuff still gets me. But of course the key difference, between then and now, is that I understand how I receive the world. And how it’s received by others.

That is powerful stuff. It explains the inexplicable. It depersonalises the challenging behaviours of others. More than anything else I’ve encountered, this knowledge allows us to be – and, crucially, accept – ourselves.

“Our conversation has had a transformative effect on how I view myself and my relationships with others. It’s not just that I now know my type; it’s also that I feel a greater degree of self-acceptance because of how you were able to explain it to me.”

– Kate Etheridge

Let’s begin

Reveal your Type

£125, 1:1, 75–90 minutes

This session offers a grounded, compassionate point of entry to the Enneagram called a Typing Interview. We’ll explore the nine spaces with some open questions, reflect on your patterns of behaviour, and explore what motivates the behaviours that are holding you back.

By the end of the interview, you’ll have a clear sense of type and time to ask questions. I’ll ensure you receive written material that’s appropriate for deeper exploration in your own time, and I may suggest we schedule a follow-up call.

Do you find your attention more drawn to one of these than the others?

  • What is right or wrong, correct or incorrect
  • The needs, feelings and desires of those around you
  • A strong desire to be seen to succeed
  • What is missing or distant in your life
  • The intellectual analysis of problems and solutions
  • Things going wrong and how you’ll deal with them
  • Planning fun and stimulating activities
  • Injustice and unfair control by others
  • Becoming a part of other people’s interesting agendas

It can be shocking to learn that our view through this particular lens is far from universal!

You may find this video helpful to watch in advance.

Ready to book? You can select a day and time that suits via Calendly below.

Enneagram Café

Online Group, Twice monthly

The Enneagram in the Narrative Tradition – learning out-loud – has been an ever-growing part of my life since 2006. This work has changed everything. My understanding of myself. The ways in which I am misunderstood. The reasons I find certain situations so challenging, and what it takes to do my work in way that is self-aligned.

Of course, this doesn’t mean the work is easy! Knowledge is interesting, but it is through practice that we can make progress. By meeting, to hear and learn from one another in a facilitated space, we can accelerate our learning enormously. Suddenly, we recognise ourselves, or someone we know, in the words of others. We see the pattern as observer, rather than interlocutor. We see our own situation from a different perspective.

Investing time with others in this way is rewarding and nourishing. The sessions will be shaped by those in attendance, but we will make our way through this work. The centres of intelligence, passions and fixations, holy virtues and ideas and sub-types will all feature. I want these sessions to be interactive, with plenty of space for individual and panel discussion. You are very welcome, whatever your level of experience.

“I now understand so much more what makes me tick, tantrum, run away and stay. I understand my family, husband and friends better too. I couldn’t have got this far in this joyful work without Kieran, who is a source of knowledge, insight and inspiration.”

– Frances Khalastchi

Practical Integration

£150, 1:1, ~90 minutes

These sessions are an opportunity to further your knowledge, skill and awareness. We’ll deepen your understanding of your type and discover the motivations that sit behind your behavioural patterns.

Communication challenges are welcome here, because the Enneagram is a tool of practical examination. This work depersonalises the things that we find most challenging in others, and it’s a space to find what we want by speaking it out-loud.

If you find yourself getting stuck on any of the following, you’re likely to find this work useful:

  • being assertive
  • dealing with nerves
  • projecting your voice
  • making eye contact
  • accepting praise
  • practising listening
  • posture and body language
  • giving and receiving feedback
  • reacting to resistance in others
  • timing a conversation well
  • finding communication for the situation
  • talking about your work to others
  • a triggering conversation with friends or family

If you don’t currently know your type, I suggest you first book a Typing Interview to get started.

Ready to book? You can select a day and time that suits via Calendly below.

Speaking styles

Type One

Ones tend to communicate with clarity, precision, and a focus on details. They strive for accuracy and can be straightforward in expressing their thoughts and opinions. They may also have a tendency to be critical or perfectionistic in their communication.

Type Two

Twos are often warm, empathetic, and attentive listeners. They excel at building rapport and connecting with others through their genuine interest and willingness to help. However, they may struggle with assertiveness and expressing their own needs directly.

Type Three

Threes are skilled communicators who can adapt their style to fit different audiences and contexts. They often convey confidence and enthusiasm, emphasizing their achievements and goals. However, they may prioritize presentation and success over authentic self-expression.

Type Four

Fours tend to communicate with depth, emotion, and a focus on individuality. They are expressive, imaginative, and can bring a unique perspective to their conversations. However, they may also be prone to self-referential or melodramatic language at times.

Type Five

Fives are often thoughtful, analytical, and precise in their communication. They value knowledge and may prefer to observe and listen before actively participating in conversations. They may be more reserved and may need time to process their thoughts before sharing them.

Type Six

Sixes are typically loyal, thorough, and detail-oriented in their communication. They seek security and may have a tendency to ask questions or voice concerns to ensure clarity and minimize uncertainty. They can be cautious about taking a definitive stance on certain topics.

Type Seven

Sevens are energetic, optimistic, and enjoy engaging with ideas and possibilities. They often bring enthusiasm and creativity to their communication, with a tendency to explore multiple topics or options. However, they may also struggle with staying focused and may avoid difficult or negative subjects.

Type Eight

Eights are direct, assertive, and confident communicators. They value honesty and may express their opinions and desires with forcefulness. They may be comfortable with confrontation and may challenge others’ viewpoints to stimulate deeper discussions.

Type Nine

Nines are typically diplomatic, agreeable, and skilled at finding common ground in communication. They strive for harmony and may avoid conflict or assertiveness. They may prioritise maintaining peace over expressing their own preferences or opinions.

“My typing interview with Kieran was genuinely revelatory. I found his compassion and clarity so helpful – his explanations of the Enneagram and our discussion of its connections to my own experiences helped me to understand the fundamental patterns underpinning my behaviour. Our conversation has had a transformative effect on how I view myself and my relationships with others. It’s not just that I now know my type; it’s also that I feel a greater degree of self-acceptance because of how Kieran was able to explain it to me, which corrected my misconceptions. I’m very grateful to him for making use of his expertise in such an empathetic way. The insights I feel we reached after an hour’s interview far exceeded anything I could have gained from an online test or my own research. I couldn’t recommend Kieran’s interviews more highly!”

– Kate Etheridge

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